Wednesday, July 13, 2011
One year ago
One year ago today, we were getting ready for our We Didn't Know You Party, where we invited fairly new work friends to celebrate our week-old marriage. We were planning the lasagna, beef barbecue, pierogies, quiches (that's right, plural quiches), and desserts; getting some ribbon-y decor together; finding songs and pictures and revisiting our guest book to host this mini wedding party with people we really liked but weren't close enough with two months prior to invite them to the actual event. One year ago, we were realizing more and more that we were together, finally, forever. One year ago was also the last time we saw our happy friend Aundre. We were walking around our neighborhood, our newly-wed selves, as we so often did. And we found Aundre! And we heard that we were an inspiration to him! And he asked for our number so we gave him mine and he put it in his phone under Justin's name and Justin mentioned whatever game system he has or something. We told him our address and said to come over any time, someone's always there! And since then, I half-waited for a somewhat awkward text from an unknown number wanting to hang out. I double checked every youngish kid with a big smile and lots of dreads just in case. I kept my eyes open on walks, remembering the intersection we saw him at most often. As the weeks and months went by, I stopped looking so carefully. It occurred to me every now and again, you know who we haven't seen? He wasn't at CVS at all anymore, not that we went there very much now that we both had jobs and a 24-hour pharmacy was way better. Did he move? Did he go to school somewhere? Were we just uncannily missing him all the time? Then. Then, in a flash, we were talking about moving. Then, in a much slower flash, we found a place, bought it, and moved. A five-minute drive away, but in a totally different neighborhood with no tennis courts, no winding sidestreets that end in cuddly sacs, no foresty paths that take you to elementary school playgrounds, and no Aundre. But, this year! The house is coming together slowly but surely and becoming more and more ours every day. We had a lovely time celebrating our first anniversary with paper presents and a Richmond B&B. We have come so far from one year ago! Who knows, maybe soon we'll meet as happy of a character as Aundre with an even bigger smile and cooler dreads and a quicker wit. Maybe our gardens next year will be better than any foresty path, and maybe whiffle ball in the meadow will be more fun than any tennis. But my heart will always have that proverbial special place for Aundre, one year ago.